How to Control Anger

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How the brain processes emotions? The information captured by the senses we received and transferred into two channels, those are the emotions regulator (the amygdala) and the thinking part (the neocortex). Interestingly, the process of information to the amygdala takes faster than the process to the neocortex. When we feel a very strong emotion, the amygdala will soon take over our brain and take action to escape, fighting or sculpting. Consequently, the neocortex didn’t get work and we cannot access the information with rational. This process named ‘the amygdala piracy’ by Daniel Goleman. This is the reason why we often regret when we did some acts or took decision at our intense emotion.

Therefore, when we are in the condition that may trigs the intense emotions, then stop. Give time to our brain to think. One of the emotion management technique states to stop doing anything for 6 seconds to give enough time to make amygdala stop pirate our thinking brain.

The Characteristics of Single Child

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Single child can be referred to as the “most versatile”. Take the best and worst qualities of the first child, multiple it two or three times and you’ve just created a recipe for single child. Single child is not only could be a leader but they tend to be super perfectionist. Everything is black and white, it means, “Do it on my way or the wrong way.” Therefore, they tend to be a lot of criticism and not just a little selfish. Sometimes they can oppress people and do not care about others feeling.

Very likely, the single child typical is a list maker, very smart and growing rapidly in the logic. Single child tends to be very neat bur even some messy know where to find something amid. They are great activator: task oriented, organized remarkable, very thorough and completely unreliable. They like facts, ideas and detail and very comfortable with responsibility. Single child may be introverted. Though they like one-on-one interaction, they are impatient for small talk in the middle of group social events. They tend to be difficult to forgive and tend to be demanding. They hate to admit that they are wrong and are usually not easily accept criticism.

In special situation, single child can creates two different types of people. The first is restless child below the surface. Always brought up with strict plan regularly and very discipline even expected to act mature since the age of five, living joy in the midst of adults and often particularly get along with adult. These children are very quiet and cool on the surface but behind it they hate to be an adult who robbed of their childhood.

The Characteristics of the Twins

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Although each has siblings, twins usually grow into a different person. Generally, the first child born will have the proper character of older sister / brother who protects. While the born later will have character like younger sibling. Outside of their relationship, the twins will usually have problems with the stamp of their “twin” status. This could be a source of frustration when they grow up and look for their identity. So, teach the twins to look for their favorite passion or respectively. Although they will difficult to be separated and prefer to be with, try to approach one by one and notice what is their interest and skills individually. It is important for each child to build interest and individual personality and not mutually dependent.

The first twin resembles the first child:

• Aggressive
• Hard
• Speak out
• Stubborn
• Intolerance

The second twin resembles the middle child:

• Shy
• A quiet
• Loner
• Not opposing

The Characteristics of Last Child

The last child is often considered as a baby family and life as this role. Sometimes it is hard for last child to find a place in family, as the first and middle child has left footprints to follow and carve themselves into the family.

Characters that is common to the last child among other children:

• Classified as difficult as it had older sibling as models.
• Often feel inferior, as not as powerful as their older siblings.
• Often assisted in the care of people around, so they’re not too aware of their potential.
• Tend to be spoiled and love much devoted to them.
• More feel safe.
• Tend not mature and less responsible.
• Usually understand that they are special.
• Considered as a “baby” continuously.
• The rules that given to them is less strict.
• Only given small responsibility in the family.
• Less experience in learning responsibility makes the youngest avoid responsibility and commitment, especially when the parents treat them happily as a “baby”.
• More spontaneous and have a free spirit.
• Many comedians and hosts are a middle child or the youngest because they freely develop their unique personality.

The Characteristics of First Child

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First born child usually has great attention directed at them. There are two kinds of typical first-born child that is obedient and aggressive. The first child in the family can be one of two types and have distinctive characters:

• Often burdened with expectations or wishes of parents. The first child is very important for parents’ ego. That is why, the eldest encouraged to achieve a very high standard as parent representative.
• Tend to be depressed.
• Love being the center of attention. The optimal development of their personality is when they gained attention.
• Parents tend to be more concerned in educating first child.
• Usually first child is a high achiever (have desire to be achiever).
• When the younger was born, they had an honor place for the younger. Even so, when the center was distracted by their younger, they can be jealous and insecure.
• Likely to be given the responsibility of parents to look after their younger.
• Responsible and independent learning through daily activities.
• Reliable.
• Tend to be bound to the rules.
• Dominant, conservative and authoritarian,
• Having a sharp mind.
• More sensitive.
• Responsible, protect and care for others.
• Good organizer.
• Many first children get the top position as director or CEO. Not a bit first child who was suffering because they do not succeed.

The Characteristics of Middle Child

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Among the eldest and the youngest, the middle child is well known with their negotiation skill. Because the wedge position so they want to get the attention of the parents or others around them. The middle child is quite difficult to pin down but they tend to be the opposite of their eldest.

These are the characteristics of middle child:

• Tend to be more independent so they could build and form their own character. For example, their mother holds their youngest and their father hold their eldest, then they doesn't know what to rely on anyone. Eventually they became more independent.
• Because of neglect, the second or middle tend to have high motivation, could be in terms of achievement and socialization.
• Tend to be free of parental experience and independent.
• Clever to look the situation.
• Rules are applied more loosely. The mid child is allowed to do things certain generally with few restrictions.
• Adventurous. Like to socialized and live in groups.
• Free to express their unique personality.
• Tend to be more expressive. Ambition to surpass their eldest, especially when their age is close.
• Thought tend to oppose, the mid child is usually more adaptable.
• Flexible and love peace.
• Have artistic talent.
• Have social interest.
• Have high motivation.
• Tend to need of affection.
• Tend to feel unloved by parents than their eldest and youngest.
• Difficult to describe their personality.

How to Communicate with A Blood Type Person

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Do not talk with confrontational topics, for example, a controversial topic because they do not like to make a confrontation with you.

Use relatively polite words because they are very sensitive and sometimes conservative so if the words are not in accordance with their minimum standards of decency, it would be offensive to them.

If want to answer them, try to speak complete and meaningful because they are very perfect and do not really like the incomplete things.

Ask their views and opinions because they are very creative for this and listen carefully when they explain.

Do not exceed them when delivery something. That means, don’t make them they are surpassed in terms of intelligence and experience.

Respect them with praise as necessary because the excessive praise will make them doubt the sincerity of the praise.

In addition, the A blood type person like to talk about peaceful and cooperative topics. They do not like the topic related to others’ lunge or personalities which has no parameter explained. They are very sensitive which means every word that defies their common sense would become the benchmark them against people who want to communicate with. Be careful of A blood type person because they are actually extraordinary observer.

How to Communicate with B Blood Type Person

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Type B has a different character to those with A blood type. They are more practical, self-centered, creative, optimistic and free in thought. They also have a tendency to do things individually. Therefore in Japan, to form a strong team that initiated the motto of John C. Maxwell: Teamwork makes the dream work really become reality, the B blood type is usually less involved. For more details, these are the following style of the communication with B blood type person that can be used as a guideline:

Begin talks with cascading, do not jump to anywhere because they do not like the irregular things.

Do not start the conversation without end.

Use accurate data, not fiction.

If you’d like to corporate with them, make sure that they are willing.

Speak to their brain, not their heart. Use more rational than social facts. Do not speech hasty.

B blood type person rather listen to a detailed description and consecutively.  Because they are very concerned with what has begun to be terminated. They do not like people who do not speak clearly and without any rational consideration because they are using the ratio of its reasoning than feelings.

How to Communicate with AB Blood Type Person

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Their character is easily changed based on their mood condition. You can get the blood AB type person’s heart when we communicate with them to deliver our message and they can nicely accept. Here are the styles to communicate with them:

First, follow their flow of the conversation.

Then, speak firmly because they are easy to change.

Talk about art and metaphysics to start a conversation longer if it’s desired.

If you make an appointment, make sure they understand and agree.

Do not take unilateral decisions because they like to make the unilaterally decision. Discussed with synergistic.

Say simple and short and don’t give them promises because they hardly remembering something, moreover perform more duties.

This blood type person is a bit unlucky in Japan because it is considered the most weak and untrustworthy. However, it’s certainly very casuistry and geographically. It’s just by understanding the characteristic of AB blood type person, many things to do to not reap disappointment later in the future if it turns out to be true character. And for AB blood type person, can certainly introspect the negative things which accordance with the above explanation.

How to Communicate with O Blood Type Person

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These are following guidelines that can be used when we communicate with vigorous, confident, frankly, optimistic, sometimes selfish and creative O blood type:

Speak with passion and full vitality. Because they don’t like people who seem weak, fatigue, lethargy and lackluster considered unable to follow their full energy rhythm.

Do not use negative words and pessimistic because they only have optimistic and positive spirit.

When binding an agreement, make sure that they are firmly committed to what has been agreed upon and may be responsible for its completion.

Speak honestly because they are also so. Once the lies are detected, they are not going to trust again on another occasion. Show off cheerful and passion body language.

O blood type most like to communicate with those who excitedly. People who do not have the spirit of a good life is hard being a close friend because they always in line with the spirit of their vitality. They will be able to communicate for hours with people who are fit and be able to follow their very optimistic and motivating rhythm.